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 People are usually on their best behaviour when it comes to first dates.  Filled with a whole gamut of emotions, even the most confident of us are likely to be harbouring nerves, worry about how we’re going to be perceived and of course, that ever present fear of rejection.  With this in mind, Macbeth Matchmaking is giving you a golden ticket into your date’s mind.  If you get stuck for conversation at any point, or aren’t quite sure what that look meant, here are some of the things she’s wondering, but probably to embarrassed to say. Don’t worry, you can thank us later for this exclusive matchmakers/matchmaking advice. What do you really want? With a few exceptions, this is usually the prevailing thought in a women’s mind when she’s sitting across the table from you. It will be especially true if she’s looking for a serious relationship and is uninterested in wasting time on someone with differing goals.  If your date does have the confidence to just come out ...

 Knowing what to say on a first date can be daunting, especially when coupled with the fear of having to sit through awkward silences and having nothing in common.  Sometimes this fear gets us so nervous, that we find ourselves uttering statements and asking questions that we really shouldn’t.  Whether inappropriate or just plain rude, it can show off elements of our character that aren’t very thoughtful and perhaps not the best representation of whom we truly are.   For those of you men who have fallen foul to your own version of foot in mouth disease, here are 5 things to definitely NEVER say on a first date.  I’m best friends with my ex Your date’s first thought: Ugh, really man, really? Let’s get this straight; no one, we repeat, no one, ever wants to hear that their date still has a previous lover on speed dial.  The only people who possibly don’t mind, are those who still have their own intimate connection with an ex.   Being best frien...

 If you’ve been single a while, or are recently getting back into the dating world, you may be wondering exactly what it is men are seeking in 2018.  It has to be said that our society doesn’t always allow for them to be truly open about what they need or want from a partner, so we’re going to step in and be totally honest with you. Here it is…  Space for self-expression Men want a woman who they can be themselves with.  This means that they’re accepted for who they are, at their core, and able to express it in the way they most feel comfortable with. Changing the way a man dresses, influencing the type of foods he eats or even the sort of shows he watches, may be okay as a surface level adaptation, but expecting him to stop seeing particular friends, give up hobbies or suddenly begin caring deeply about your shoe collection is a whole different story.  There are such strong expectations of what it is to be a man these days that sometimes we spend too much time ...

 Dating within our age range is, when you think about it, quite a logical thing to do.  It means that our journey in life can perhaps sync more easily.  When we’re young we can share each other’s motivations and limitations in life, and in adulthood we’re able to experience joint milestones like marriage and our first children, or our first homes as independent people.  This logical viewpoint however portrays life as a very linear process, whilst actual living it tells us that there are many variants that can occur.   People who are unable to think ‘outside the box’ of convention will always regard large age gaps in relationships with amazement and suspicion.  Whether you’re dating older or younger, it’s helpful to be aware of what you’ll come up against and that is why private matchmakers too support such relations. The assumption from strangers If you’re a man and your partner is younger, you’re probably well aware of the different assumptions you’...

 These days our requirements for a partner can be extensive. As we become more confident in asking for the things we want in life and as we witness the ever-growing possibilities of love and luxury, our expectations slowly begin to creep up.  Whilst there’s nothing wrong with wanting the best from lovers, if we’re prepared to be the best ourselves, it’s important to be mindful of what really matters. If you’re single and looking for a fulfilling relationship through a high-end matchmaker , you may want to consider what you’d do if your special person arrives and they look the part, talk your love language, appreciate the same things as you, but hold different values or beliefs. What’s the actual issue? Occasionally, what looks like a hugely different set of beliefs and motivations between two people can, on closer inspection, be a lot less significant than once thought.  When presented with a partner who seems to have differing opinions to ones that are important to you, ...

 You may be familiar with hearing phrases such as, ‘I just want a real man’ or ‘I just want someone decent’ when women are asked what they want from a partner.  At Berkeley International we know how unhelpful this sort of vague and generic description can be, so in this blog we’re going to break it down a little.  Most women, when you drill down a little deeper, do have a clear idea of their perfect match and here are the biggest similarities. Security  One of the qualities that women look for in men is security.  Now, when most people think about this word they immediately assume it refers to financial security.  Not true.  Whilst this is a consideration and an extremely important one to some, what’s usually valued more is emotional and physical security. Emotional security means that you hear and listen when she is speaking.  It means that you make her feelings a priority in your life and do your best to express how much you value, love and resp...

 Ghosting appears, ironically, to be something that has sprung up out of nowhere these past few years. It’s likely been around for decades, but as the ways in which we connect with each other increases, so too do the ways we can disconnect – seemingly without trace. More and more people are releasing the shame and anxiety involved in being so unceremoniously rejected. There are countless tales of people going on multiple dates and then suddenly having their messages ignored and once active dating profiles replaced by broken links. If you haven’t experienced it, count yourself lucky. If you have, there are three possibilities we want you to remember and consider.   Plain old-fashioned rudeness It’s impossible to deny that quite simply, some people lack an appropriate amount of care for others and are extremely rude.  There are many reasons why people perpetrate the act of ghosting and this has to be one of the least acceptable.  Believe it or not, we’ve spoken to thes...